1. Is it safe for me to highlight your weaknesses towards this person?
We all should reveal our wounds to our partners so that they can understand us properly. The triggers exist in all relationships (romantic and friendship), and they will always come to us – the past never disappears. In a healthy relationship, we should consider whether we feel comfortable revealing these triggers without fear of attack or fear that they will destroy the relationship. Instead of destroying everything you create, you should bring it closer and help you grow in this way.
Trust is a major part of this process. If you cannot assume that your partner will be kind to your deep feelings, defects, and insecurity, it may be a red flag that you do not feel emotionally safe, which is an essential part of any long-term relationship.
Living in a relationship where you do not feel emotionally safe can be extremely painful and will obstruct years of potential development. In a safe place, people must be one to deal with the triggers and not only face them but also replace them. Another way to phrase the question is to ask yourself whether the relationship gives you a chance to heal your wounds, or if it keeps them open and encourages an addiction to toxic plays or chaotic tendencies.